What does it mean to tame your mind?

They say that our biggest problems sit between our ears. It is what we think about a situation that is the problem and not necessarily the event itself.

How is that possible? Your upbringing and experiences give you the filters with which you view the world. And it is these filters that determine how you interpret a situation. These filters are what you believe. These beliefs can either help or prevent you from reaching your full potential. When what you believe holds you back from your full potential, we call it a limiting belief. Removing limiting beliefs is the way to tame your mind.

Example of a limiting belief.

Imagine you are applying for a new position at a dream company. You’ve made it to the final round. You have to give a presentation to the whole board of directors on your vision for the company. You know what you want to say, and you will create a mind-blowing presentation. You fear presenting it. The idea of speaking in front of all the board member with the stakes being so high gives you sleepless nights. You tell everyone about this fear you have about speaking in front of the board members. You remind yourself of how scared you are of speaking in front of the board members. Every time you talk about it, you can feel your heart starting to race and your hand’s tingle. You know this feeling well, and you can remember when it started way back at school.

A big part of society struggles with the limiting belief of public speaking. It is frequently rooted in giving a speech at school, and something went wrong. You were either told that you couldn’t speak or decided that you can’t talk in front of a group of people. That is the birth of a limiting belief. Each time that a speech does not go according to plan, it reinforces the belief.

How can you release limiting beliefs?

You need to release the emotions that you experienced when you made that limiting decision. The feelings are often rooted in a stress response. A stress response is where blood flow is directed away from the brain and into our arms and legs. This response prevents us from thinking clearly and making rational decisions. When we release the emotional charge from the situation, we can remove the belief.

Tapping is my preferred method of dealing with this stress response. By tapping on specific points, it sends a calming signal to the amygdala. Once calmed, you can look at an event and reframe and make a different decision.

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